Maybe that’s all family really is: a group of people that miss the same imaginary place.  – Garden State.


They shape your earliest memories, your first perceptions of life, helped you become who you are.

Beth’s son – June 2011

They were your first teachers, exposing you to the new and difficult, helping you master the most basic tasks.  They were your first friends, giving you an idea of yourself and how to be social.  Maybe they were even your first enemies, creating friction, arguments, and your first “no’s” in this world.

And as you grew up they were there.  They provided your original idea of what “normal” was.  The older you got – moving away, meeting other people, (maybe moving back), getting married, they were still there.  They way you think reflects how much they influence you – and even if you change your actions and thinking just a little bit, it’s still a reaction to what your family of origin first taught you.

And it doesn’t matter how big or how small your family was, if they were all related by blood or marriage or proximity.  They were still your family.  As the old proverb goes – you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.

This November we’re going to be exploring the notion of family at Connect Shore.  It’s pretty timely with holidays right around the corner and thoughts of family and time with family abounds.  How did our families shape us? What are some of our best memories, the inside jokes, and the craziest vacations that we went on?  What will we never forget?

Now that each of us are married and parents, how has that changed our idea of family or what type of family we might want to become? What do we look toward as our models of a healthy family?  Is the quote from Anna Karenina really correct – Are happy families all alike in the same way, and unhappy families all different?  What novels, TV shows, and movies do a great job showing off families, or an awful job of it.  What are our national and international models of great families?  Or the opposite?

The British Royal Family

Pres. Barack Obama and family via Chicago Sun Times

We’re going to explore the memories of our family and the way they predisposed us to certain characteristics, make our favorite childhood recipes, and prepare for the most family oriented holiday of them all.

Beth’s Family Vacation this year at Cape Cod

Won’t you join us?  We’d love to have you follow along on our blog, or facebook.
-Beth Melillo


2 responses to “Family

    • Me too. When I first watched Garden State, I thought – YES! That is the best description of a family I’ve ever heard. Still rings true for me, even though I no longer care for the movie anymore. – Beth

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